Saturday, May 24, 2008

(((((((((((((D I N N E R))))))))))))

I was talking to a friend today and we were laughing about dinner...yes, it was quite funny. Because we were discussing the different ways families conduct their dinner.

Take our family for instance: My husband is a manners Nazi... the harder the kids try to get away with bad manners the worse it gets...I, on the other hand love chaotic dinners! yeah the more the merrier pull up a chair and enjoy.

I don't mind elbows on the table, finger usage, singing if it's not too loud, and everyone talking at once. Now chewing with your mouth open, thats going a bit too far.

Now the husband-he's the proper one, do not put your elbows on the table....god forbid if you pushed some peas onto your spoon with your finger! And as soon as your elbow touches the table ...WHAM, you're nailed.

His philosophy, is to always be teaching your children (I agree to a certain extent) my argument to him is that the kids know how to act in public, they will not embarrass us! Can't we just have a relaxing dinner?

How can two totally different people eat peacefully at the table with two conflicting beliefs? I don't know, I have to button my mouth and wait until he goes out of town...


candidchatter said...

I seriously didn't know it was bad manners to put your elbows on the table or push food with your fork until I was about 20. At my house (when I was a kid), it was get it while you can, scarf it down if you want seconds. There was no time for manners. We were too busy stuffing our selfish faces. LOL!!! Thanks for the memories.

Heidi Reed

candidchatter said...

Duh... I meant "push food with your finger".


careysue said...


Anonymous said...

My house has a similar situation. My wife is a taskmaster at the table. No fooling around or laughing, cutting up. No elbows on the table etc. Better sit up straight.

I say hey don't have a cow man.

We all have to help with making dinner so there are 3 or 4 people all tripping over each other and getting yelled at fro not doing things right. It's a no win situation.
I wuld just as soon eat a bowl of cereal in peace than go through all the hassle of the dinner shuffle at my house.

careysue said...

anon--that is soooo funny...glad to hear it's not just women that go through that!!!

Blessings From Above said...

I agree with your style Carey. As long as the kids know how to behave in public, they should be able to relax at home. On the bright side, at least your hubby cares that they have manners! :)

Have a good weekend!

Carrie said...

Our rule is to practice safe eating. No stabbing, no grabbing, and no tattling on others.

And they have to say, "may I please be excused" ... you can't just walk away. I love to say, "not yet" because this is when the good talk starts.

careysue said...

Jennifer--Oh I agree, he does care about their manners. He just teaches them different than I do! :)

JWilson said...

Dinner when I was growing up was always filled with talking and story telling. No one paid atention to how you ate or how you were sitting.

Now my husband doesn't care how you sit or eat but he isn't into talking. I think this has to do with him being a only child, but it drives me nuts. Sometimes I miss the loud crazy dinners.

Chris said... you guys eat at the table? together? at the same time? Since there are is just me and the kiddo, we tend to eat sitting on the floor in front of the TV. Bad, yes, but when I was growing up it was just miserable to sit all together at the dinner table. I hated it ! So now I do what I want, heeheehee.